The death of a loved one is a very traumatic experience. It can be devastating even if you have had time to prepare for it. Were you caring for your relative or a spouse? Their death may lead you confused, shocked, depressed and also relieved. All these feelings are normal, and you just need to accept the reality. We know it is not easy, but here are a couple of things we would like to share with you today.
1. It is not your fault
Death (no matter harsh and sad it may sound) is a part of life. You cannot blame yourself for what has happened. Even worse, you should not make assumptions or have regrets that if you had done this or the other thing better, it would not have happened too soon. There is nobody to blame. You gave your time, dedication and energy and you tried your best to achieve the best results. Sometimes, the outcome is not dependent on you.
2. Cry if you need it
If you feel overwhelmed with emotions, cry. You cannot hold all of these negative feelings inside you and pretend you are doing fine. Cry if you need that. Speak to a family member or a counsellor. It is the time where you will need lots of support yourself, especially from your family and friends.
3. Clear your thoughts
The death of a loved one is a traumatic experience. Remember to look after yourself. It is now your time to recover physically and mentally. Pamper yourself. You can book a spa visit or go for a short holiday to some other country. Socialising and meeting other people can be very useful.
Unfortunately, this time will not be easy for you. It takes time to recover and to accept reality. It is important to have some people around. And, if you do not, join support groups or go for counselling. Have you ever had to cope with the death of someone you loved? How did you manage to handle it? Share with us, please. Your experience may be valuable to someone who is going through the similar situation at this moment.